The holiday season of Thanksgiving through the New Year, brings many events big and small that Migraineurs and those with other chronic illnesses miss out on and probably wish they could rewrite. As the December 2011 Headache and Migraine Disease Blog Carnival demonstrated, we work hard to decrease triggers to prevent these situations. But inevitably, we will most likely face an event that we will miss out on or weigh heavily on whether or not we should push ourselves to attend only to regret it later.
George and I went to Kentucky for the Christmas holiday this year for ten days to be with my family. We almost did not make the trip because my health was so poor, but George muscled through packing our Honda Civic Hybrid to the brim, carrying myself and the three dogs into the car and driving the 5 1/2 hours (yes I do believe he was going pretty fast) to get there.
|Making allergen-free cookies with my dad.|
I also missed out on a lot, but I'll only mention the big things: spending the extremely special times with my family of Christmas Eve, Christmas Eve dinner and the second half of Christmas Day, spending time with good high school friends I had not seen in a while and meeting their children.
As I laid in my bed all Christmas Eve day, and during special Christmas Eve dinner, I could hear my family's voices echo through the house. I could picture what I was missing in my head: the food, the lively conversation, the smells. I only go to my parents' for Christmas-time every other year so it is a big deal for me to miss such meaningful times.
I allowed myself to be sad, to cry, and to be disappointed. Not being able to spend time with my family; friends during important times is something to feel grief about and to vent about. But, after crying and saying a few choice words directed to my body and to God, I made a decision not to feel sorry for myself and to limit my pity party. After the pity party, I decided that I needed to focus on taking care of myself. I made the choice by telling myself that this is just one day--an important day, but in the long run, I have other days I can make just as important.
|My brother, sister-in-law, myself, & George (not pictured my parents and uncle) at a restaurant!|